Managing Emotions While Parenting

Managing Emotions While Parenting


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Techniques for emotional regulation in parenting.

Understanding Emotions 

Explores why emotional regulation is crucial for parents and the impact of parental emotions on children.

Techniques for Calm 

Provides practical methods for maintaining calm and composure in challenging parenting situations.

Building Emotional Resilience 

Discusses ways to build emotional resilience, helping parents manage stress and react more positively in various situations.

From all parenting tips, the most important one is probably to listen to yourself more.

Do you have days where you feel helpless and overwhelmed by your responsibilities as a new parent? You are not alone! Despite finding a new sense of joy and meaning in your parenthood journey, there will be times when you grapple with managing your negative emotions. You may also have experienced guilt, felt remorseful or upset that you lost control of your emotions while disciplining your child and realising there was a better way to cope.

 

Learning how to better regulate your emotions will not only improve your emotional wellbeing but also ease your parenting responsibilities. This is because it increases your likelihood of resolving issues with your child in a less stressful manner. Furthermore, your child’s behavior tends to be a reflection of yours as they closely emulate you in their growing-up years. You can lead by example when you are able to self-regulate your emotions and teach them how to handle theirs in a healthy way too.

Here are some ways to better regulate your feelings, which go hand-in-hand with parenting tips:

  1. Acknowledge your emotions
    If you are feeling furious or frustrated with your child due to their misbehaviour or actions, do not be quick to put yourself down because of these feelings. Work on becoming more open in accepting these emotions and determining their root cause. By doing so, it facilitates your decision-making process on how to react effectively without hurting your child, physically or emotionally. Though you may experience difficulty trying to keep calm during such situations, try reminding yourself of the advantages and long-term benefits. Staying calm aids you in remaining connected with your child as he feels understood and will be more open to admitting his mistakes. It also eliminates your guilt from lashing out and fewer sleepless nights caused by this guilt. 

  2. Find alternative ways to cope
    Why not try to offer your child a hug or confide in someone when you feel like you are on the verge of losing control? This helps you to ease the tense situation and resolve the issue at hand without pampering him or her. Some methods you may want to try include – embracing him and telling him that you are aware of and understand his displeasure before reasoning out with him. Alternatively, you may want to look back at some of your child’s baby photos or speak to someone who understands your circumstances and feelings. Give these methods a try and you may be surprised by how useful and effective they are in educating your child and reducing stress for both of you.

  3. Give yourself some time to cool down 
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    f you find it difficult to respond calmly with your child in sight, try to give yourself a short time-out. Say you need a moment to think. This method can be very useful in having your child to stop misbehaving and can serve as a lesson to learn how to regulate emotions. It also calms your mind and provides you time to reflect on the reasons behind your child’s actions. A time-out can also come in handy when your child is present while you and your partner are unable to come to a common ground. Having to regulate your unpleasant emotions throughout stressful times is no fun. You need to keep in mind that your effort to do so will be beneficial for both, you and your child. When you are able to deal with your emotions without losing control, you can build a stronger bond between you and your child while maintaining your emotional wellbeing. Consistent effort to manage your feelings also sets a good example for your child to follow – ensuring that your little one is able to handle his emotions well as he grows. Keep in mind that all parenting tips are not all about your child.

 

References:
Lerner, C. 2016. Managing Your Own Emotions: The Key to Positive, Effective Parenting. Retrieved from: https://www.zerotothree.org/resources/521-managing-your-own-emotions-the-key-to-positive-effective-parenting
Perlman, L. 2017. How to Regulate Your Emotions: A Critical Skill For Parents and Children. Retrieved from: https://www.infocuspsychology.com/how-to-regulate-your-emotions-a-critical-skill-for-parents-and-children/

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